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Dating Outside Your Race

AH YES, BLACK WOMEN DATING WHITE MEN. WELL, MAYBE I WILL HAVE A LITTLE EXPERIENCE WITH THIS SOONER RATHER THAN LATER. EVE FOUND HER PRINCE CHARMING.....

FIRST, I HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY DATED OUTSIDE MY RACE, I THOUGHT ABOUT IT AND EVEN ENTERTAINED CONVERSATIONS ABOUT IT, BUT NEVER FOLLOWED THROUGH

BUT WHY NOT? YOU ASK........

IT JUST SEEMED WEIRD, THEY ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT "NORMAL BLACK PEOPLE STUFF." I THOUGHT, AND STILL DO THINK THAT WE WILL NOT HAVE THE SAME INTEREST SUCH AS MUSIC, MOVIES, FOOD AND LIFE IN GENERAL.

WILL HE EAT RUDY'S CHICKEN?
HOW DOES HE MAKE KOOL-AID?
HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW WHO LUTHER VANDROSS IS?

ARE HIS PARENTS RACIST? QUESTION I WOULD HATE TO HAVE AN ANSWER TO IF THEY WERE.

WITH THE CURRENT SOCIAL CLIMATE... WILL I BE PERCEIVED AS A TRAITOR?
I HAVE NEVER CARED WHAT OTHERS THOUGHT OF ME, WON'T START NOW.

SO WHY START NOW? WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU EVEN TRY AND DATE A WHITE GUY GIRL?

WELL TO ANSWER YOU, WHY NOT? WE SAY WE LOVE LEARNING NEW THINGS AND MEETING NEW PEOPLE.... NEW PEOPLE DOES NOT CONSIST OF ONLY BLACK PEOPLE!

THEY SAY INSANITY IS DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND EXPECTING A DIFFERENT OUTCOME... WELL I KEEP DATING BLACK GUYS OVER AND OVER AND EXPECTING A DIFFERENT OUTCOME SO TIME TO SWITCH IT UP.

MY RECENT VENTURES HAVE INTRODUCED ME TO A GREAT GUY WHO HAPPENS TO BE WHITE AND TOTALLY INFATUATED WITH BLACK WOMEN. I ADMIT HE IS KIND OF WEIRD. HE IS NOT INTO SPORTS, HE HAS CATS (ugh), READS COMICS, AND STILL DRESSES UP (like batman, KISS, comics) YEAH WEIRD.

BUT........

 HE OPENS ALL DOORS, COMPLIMENTS ME DAILY, SHOWS TRUE INTEREST IN THINGS I LIKE, ATTEMPTING TO GET TO KNOW ME FOR ME AND NOT FORCE HIS IDEA OF WHAT DATING IS OR SHOULD BE ON ME. HE IS SIMPLE AND I NEED SIMPLE, UNCOMPLICATED AND NICE IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. HE IS ORGANIZED AND TAKES THE INITIATIVE TO PLAN AND IMPLEMENT.

 TALK ABOUT TIRED OF ALWAYS DOING THE SAME THING... THIS CHICK WAS TIRED AND HAD GIVEN UP ON KNOWING A GUY WHO WOULD THINK OF THINGS TO DO BESIDES THE MOVIES AND DINNER. THERE ARE MUSEUMS AND PARKS, LETS GO OUT OF TOWN, CONCERTS AND SYMPHONIES, PAINTING AND TEACH ME SOME GUY STUFF GEESH I WANT TO GET ME HANDS DIRTY AND COOKING CLASS AND THE MALL AND A PLETHORA OF THINGS TO DO ON THE PLANET IF YOU REALLY WANTED TO TAKE ME OUT. SO HERE GOES, I AM DOING LIFE AS IT COMES.... SO WHITE GUY.... WE WILL SEE.

 *MINI GOLF AND DINNER* AND HE TEXT ME THE ADDRESS IN ADVANCE..... MAKE SURE I KNOW WHERE IM GOING... MMM... TALK ABOUT CHANGE...

WON'T HE DO IT!!

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